Several posts have been swirling around in my little gray cells for this blog but have not made into words. I was going to write about how our therapy has helped me think less selfishly. In other words, I feel like I have shifted my thoughts from, “I think” to “I think and /or but must understand Dcup’s feelings.”
We are getting better at the relationship. Even so, the other day we both utterly failed in the process. There was snarling and biting and wrestling. We got through it and surely must discuss it further but this post is not about that….
I guess the problem people have sometimes, including us, is that they slip in to familarity. Dcup and I used to do a lot of different things together, not so much any more. We certainly say that it is because of the children and our many other committments. We have slipped into a routine where it is easier not to do this or that. It is comfortable.
Last night I discovered, the family discovered, something different about Dcup. The kids and I have been playing Rockband since Christmas. Good and bad singing and crazy drum pounding and funky guitaring.
Dcup finally joined our band. We are five. Hard as Nails. The kids were pissed at me because I fired our lazy roadies. But we got something better than roadies. Dcup and she can sing. I mean it; she’s good. Last night the game was more fun and it was blast.
Last night, I watched a new and unscene Lisa that I had not observed before. She was singing and she never told me or showed me that talent before. I fell for her again like when we were kids 20 years ago.
I am so glad we’re making progress. Even the little set backs aren’t as significant as they used to be. I’m glad you like it when I sing. I was afraid you’d be cringing like crazy.
Comment by dcup — December 30, 2008 @ 10:23 am |
Make sure you both nurture this talent, because then retirement on rock star cash is just around the corner.
Comment by Randal Graves — December 30, 2008 @ 10:45 am |
Oh, how utterly sweet and lovely…. It is nice to see you enjoy each other and the whole family… thanks again for sharing….
Very, very true what you have written here… I complain to anyone who will listen (or read) “No one ever tells you how hard it is “(marriage, I mean)… In this age of instant gratification and …divorce…it is much too easy to give up than it is to learn to compromise and change …and…hopefully…grow… God, you guys seem like you are really doing it…
Happy New Year!!
Comment by giggles — December 30, 2008 @ 5:22 pm |
Next you’ll tell us YOU can belly-dance……
Comment by nbratscott — December 30, 2008 @ 9:12 pm |
Hey, you guys realize you’re living your life on the Internet? I mean that in a good way, of course; sharing and stuff. I can remember the American Family from the 70s–the Louds–and THAT was dysfunctional! I really admire the way you and DCup work it out. Happy New Year, and best of good will to you.
Comment by Quirky — January 3, 2009 @ 6:07 pm |