For Dcup

Which Song Did Sinatra Sing? Chicago My Kind of Town or New York, New York?

Growing up in Chicago I had a New York complex.  The ‘77 and 78 Yankees, ‘86 Mets, I heart NY etc… Eventually, I got to to NY when I worked for a software company based in White Plaines.   My friends and I skipped out of a company function and went to a Yankee game.  I am certainly glad I made it there.   In general, I was struck by the size of New York.  In my mind there is no comparison.

When I was a kid, my grandmother hated roses. I mean she despised them and there was no joking about this.  On mothers day you never bought her a corsage with a rose.  Why?  Because my grandfather left her for a women named Rose.  I always thought it was funny that she never appeared to move past the rose thing, after all she was married again, too.

The readers of this blog and Unglued know about our “New York” thing.  You all know how the person invaded our lives.  I feel as though his influence put our lives in a perilous position.  A situation that put Dcup in danger, danger that she should never  have been placed in.

And me… I feel guilt about this because our relationship had been pushed to the absolute brink.  I was at a point where I had drawn a dangerous, as it turned out, line in the sand.   I was angry and I was sad and I curious to see what my life would look like on my own with three kids.  I was afraid, too: Afraid that the kids and I would see very little of her and afraid

No one could have predicted what would happen in New York.  She should not have had to endure it and now we live with it but I can’t help but cringe a little with the mention of New York.  I know that I am not like my grandmother.  I will never forget, but I will not impugn the entire city because of one person.

Baby You Can Drive My Car

We sat on the couch together and looked in each others eyes.   I talked about the path that we traveled this time and that and the difference and changes we are trying to make.  I feel like for the first time in along time that this, one thing, our marriage has a chance.  We are committed to it and each other.  I feel happy.

That was our first couples counseling session this morning.  I think our relationship is on the mend and we’re heading in a positive direction.  We have other issues to deal with and money is the most crucial.

Since I am a math guy I like to find parallel lines, its one of those fun patterns to explore.  When I got the offer for my current job, Dcup and I were driving near our former home in Des Plaines, IL.  My future boss made me the offer.   Today, on our way home from our meeting, while driving near Dcup’s old office the phone rang.  Guess What?  A new job she has.